Can anyone think of a better definition for the word loser?

[Tsar Fire]

Honestly, what he said.

Just talk to her. Apologize. If she can't get over it, she isn't worth your time.

I don't know specifics, but, trust me, a lot can be worked out just by showing you care, and are willing to talk and take responsibility.

And be nice about it. It prolly isn't the end of the world really. I've probably done dumber things... actually...

 

[The Count of Monte Cristo]

Actually, giving a girl presents when they've flipped out is negative reinforcement. You'll condition their sub-conscious mind to relate fights with undying gratitude and devotion from the male.

As strange as that sounds, it's the truth. Give her gifts when she's happy, not when she's pissed off. When she's pissed off talk to her seriously, and in the long run it'll payoff.

At least that's what my psychology teacher told us, lol. It's not as simple as that, but it does happen.

Makes a lot of sense.

 

[Ols]

Then us lot.

Saturday night and were on a Star Wars forum.

Oh dear...

Just throwing this out there, when you posted this, I was in a field in Chelmsford with 85,000 odd other people watching The Killers rock the main stage.

You need to remember that the woman is always right, even if she's always wrong.

That's like rule number one...and pretty much the easiest one to understand lol. A woman is ONLY wrong when you decide you dislike having sex with said woman...this rule really teaches you to swallow your pride lol.

@Niner...talk to her. Tell her you made a mistake and are genuinely sorry (and be as sincere as possible) and she should understand. I mean you said yourself it wasn't something THAT major, so it's only an argument that's escalated over a small issue...believe it or not (and I know it's shocking) but even when they're "right" women can see sense.

 

[Viggy]

Actually, giving a girl presents when they've flipped out is negative reinforcement. You'll condition their sub-conscious mind to relate fights with undying gratitude and devotion from the male.

As strange as that sounds, it's the truth. Give her gifts when she's happy, not when she's pissed off. When she's pissed off talk to her seriously, and in the long run it'll payoff.

At least that's what my psychology teacher told us, lol. It's not as simple as that, but it does happen.

Yeah, this probably makes more sense then what I said. Don't buy her a gift. But if you don't think she'll let you have a conversation with her, leaving her a sincere letter of apology (after giving her time to calm down somewhat, so she doesn't just tear it apart immediately) would also work well.

 

[Ols]

Yeah, this probably makes more sense then what I said. Don't buy her a gift. But if you don't think she'll let you have a conversation with her, leaving her a sincere letter of apology (after giving her time to calm down somewhat, so she doesn't just tear it apart immediately) would also work well.

I wouldn't send a letter. It might seem sweet at first, but at the same time it carries with it a certain amount of insincerity and lack of confidence because you've not spoken to her face to face.

And also, girls find it a lot harder to say no in person. True story.

 

[Viggy]

I wouldn't send a letter. It might seem sweet at first, but at the same time it carries with it a certain amount of insincerity and lack of confidence because you've not spoken to her face to face.

And also, girls find it a lot harder to say no in person. True story.

That depends on the girl, and on how convincing the guy is in person. But talking face to face is almost always the better choice. *nodnod* I was only suggesting a letter as a way to approach her if she won't let Niner talk to her.

 

[Jake]

I wouldn't send a letter. It might seem sweet at first, but at the same time it carries with it a certain amount of insincerity and lack of confidence because you've not spoken to her face to face.

And also, girls find it a lot harder to say no in person. True story.

Protip: listen to Ols.

 

[Ols]

That depends on the girl, and on how convincing the guy is in person. But talking face to face is almost always the better choice. *nodnod* I was only suggesting a letter as a way to approach her if she won't let Niner talk to her.

Some girls may well find it sweet, but it still does have that risk. And like you said, talking to a girl in person whatever the situation is almost always better (the only time I can think of it not being is if she thinks/knows you've cheated on her and she is very volatile lol).

Protip: listen to Ols.

I usually do and most of the time it works out well, so I do recommend it.

 

[Niner]

It's hard to talk face to face when she lives an hour away from me.....

 

[Ser Yorick]

It's hard to talk face to face when she lives an hour away from me.....

Then how were you ever dating her?

 

[Viggy]

It's hard to talk face to face when she lives an hour away from me.....

Well, there's your problem. My first girlfriend lived just half an hour away and even that was a big strain on the relationship. You need to find a nice local girl.

 

[The Count of Monte Cristo]

Well, there's your problem. My first girlfriend lived just half an hour away and even that was a big strain on the relationship. You need to find a nice local girl.

Which is hard with him being home schooled.

 

[Jake]

Which is hard with him being home schooled.

Unless Niner is a paraplegic, that only hinders him a little bit. He can still walk around, can't he?

 

[Viggy]

Which is hard with him being home schooled.

This:

Unless Niner is a paraplegic, that only hinders him a little bit. He can still walk around, can't he?

He must know at least a few people in his area. Hanging out with them will lead to meeting more locals, and eventually he'll find a girl who tickles him the right way.

 

[Rev]

Call her then, sending her a letter or an email/msn/aim/yahoo is significantly worse than calling her. A phone call yu can at least express your real feelings, things can be mixed up over the net, or in a physical letter. Have some flowers delivered to her with an apology on it and tell the floral company to get it there at a certain time so you can call at the same time, could do a lot for your cause.

 

[Niner]

Unless Niner is a paraplegic, that only hinders him a little bit. He can still walk around, can't he?

If I could take a picture of the outside of my house I would....The nearest I am to ANYTHING is a town about 20 miles from my house.....

 

[Ols]

It's hard to talk face to face when she lives an hour away from me.....

If that's a problem now, surely it was a problem when she was your girlfriend? No matter how much you like her, an hour every time you see her takes effort and a lot of commitment from a teenager.

If I could take a picture of the outside of my house I would....The nearest I am to ANYTHING is a town about 20 miles from my house.....

Your house can't be 20 miles from the nearest town unless you literally live on some farm in the middle of nowhere, and you don't come across like a farmboy, and you seem to mention friends that you see on a regular basis.

 

[Niner]

If that's a problem now, surely it was a problem when she was your girlfriend? No matter how much you like her, an hour every time you see her takes effort and a lot of commitment from a teenager.



Your house can't be 20 miles from the nearest town unless you literally live on some farm in the middle of nowhere, and you don't come across like a farmboy, and you seem to mention friends that you see on a regular basis.

We worked together for quite a while and saw eachother every day.


No my house is quite literally 20 miles from the nearest town. I go into town quite a bit to go to different stuff, especially my acting troupe but it's hard to just go off by myself since I don't have my drivers license yet.

 

[PuffyCow]

At leas someone does. Also, I've already identified him on this site.

Chad Urmstun (or however you spell his last name)? I knew the guy even before he had dreads (way before his current fro).

His Dad substituted a couple of my high school classes. My sister is on one of their songs, I want to say "Flying Horses", the one about the sick carousal in Martha's Vineyard (even as a 20-year old, that carousal is where it's ****ing at).