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So, I was sitting in a bar the other day and I managed to strike up a conversation with the locals in downtown. I learned about where there were art clubs, places to go eat, drag show and I got to get a peek into the lives of the area I had just moved into.
Well, I am from the south and I instinctively say "sir" and "ma'am" without too much of a thought. I've been teased about it a few times, but it was always in a good-natured jest. I usually just joke right on back and keep on truckin'.
However, at this bar someone told me the rudest thing that I've heard about my habit since I moved up to Pennsylvania.
"The south needs to evolve like the rest of us and stop using words designed to reinforce slavehood."
My mouth dropped and I was honestly shocked that 1.) using sir and ma'am would be seen as "primitive" and 2.) that it had anything to reinforcing hierarchy in this day and age when most southern folk will call the guy who bags groceries "sir". After giving the gentleman a piece of my mind, I informed him that he probably never thought it was rude to say "please" and "thank you", yet those words had also been used in the past as part of a class system.
So, how do you feel about saying "sir" and "ma'am"? Does it come naturally to you was drinking water? Or is there something about it that seems vile to you?
Well, I am from the south and I instinctively say "sir" and "ma'am" without too much of a thought. I've been teased about it a few times, but it was always in a good-natured jest. I usually just joke right on back and keep on truckin'.
However, at this bar someone told me the rudest thing that I've heard about my habit since I moved up to Pennsylvania.
"The south needs to evolve like the rest of us and stop using words designed to reinforce slavehood."
My mouth dropped and I was honestly shocked that 1.) using sir and ma'am would be seen as "primitive" and 2.) that it had anything to reinforcing hierarchy in this day and age when most southern folk will call the guy who bags groceries "sir". After giving the gentleman a piece of my mind, I informed him that he probably never thought it was rude to say "please" and "thank you", yet those words had also been used in the past as part of a class system.
So, how do you feel about saying "sir" and "ma'am"? Does it come naturally to you was drinking water? Or is there something about it that seems vile to you?