Let's talk about LOVE

[Saul Perth]

Kinda off track, but a reference nobody has made yet, and after 10 pages that can not stand.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gId6nrMDmUU

 

[Ash]

A contract written in charcoal.

And there's no fighting. I already have my forum valentines. Tee-hee.

Charcoal? Little less... disturbing than I thought it would have been for lawyers.

 

[Sora]

LOVE is not all about romantic love. ♥ You love a friend, a mother, a sister... It is that pure and beautiful feeling and power called Love. And I do not agree to people saying earlier Love was destructive or a bad thing. Love is not to blame here, people are...

"Now Hollywood wants to make you think they know what love is.
But I'm a tell you what true love is.
Love is not what you see in the movies.
Its not the ecstasy, its not what you see in that scene
you know what I mean? I'm telling you right now, true love is sacrifice.
Love is thinking about others before you think about yourself
Love is selfless not selfish. Love is God and God is love.
Love is when you lay down your life for another
Whether for your brother, your mother, your father or your sister
Its even laying down your life for your enemies,
That's unthinkable, but think about that
Love is true
Think. [...]"

[video=youtube;73kZ6wBoqTk]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=73kZ6wBoqTk[/video]

I have a lot of love to give. I really don't know what hate is. I may be asexual but that is more a psychological matter because of things from my past. Hopefully I will be able to overcome it one day and things will change for me. But I am not a teen anymore now, I am not a scared young girl nor I am a virgin, just saying... I just am attracted, even physically, but not in the sexual way. I don't have or know sexual urges at all and actually not sure to really need it. -_- I do have a lot of emotions but they say I am the kind who hides most of it to always appear to be strong. That is true I hate people being worried because of me. I don't want to be trouble nor a burden, I wish to stay someone people can rely on, always be a pillar, a shield and protection to people I care for, someone always here for them.

 

[mtntopview]

Like guns don't shoot people, people shoot people, that explains everything about what this articles about, thanks for clarifying that!

 

[Sora]

Anyway, talking about romantic Love now... It feels different right. I crave for all kind of Love of course but romantic Love is... a very special bond of Love between two persons that I'd like to experience too. ^_^

 

[Horizon]

I have a lot of love to give. I really don't know what hate is. I may be asexual but that is more a psychological matter because of things from my past.

I'm guessing being asexual is a big deal. Find someone else who is asexual?

Hopefully I will be able to overcome it one day and things will change for me. But I am not a teen anymore now, I am not a scared young girl nor I am a virgin, just saying... I just am attracted, even physically, but not in the sexual way. I don't have or know sexual urges at all and actually not sure to really need it. -_-

Yeah, that got deep pretty quickly, but who needs sexual urges? Just the people that have them!

I do have a lot of emotions but they say I am the kind who hides most of it to always appear to be strong. That is true I hate people being worried because of me. I don't want to be trouble nor a burden, I wish to stay someone people can rely on, always be a pillar, a shield and protection to people I care for, someone always here for them.

Wat.

You use love pretty loosely in all this. You're talking about some real genuine shit that isn't prevalent with most people.

 

[Sora]

I feel sad you calling that "shit" even though you don't feel/think the same...
And I can always work it out with anyone, I don't need someone who is asexual and I do not fear or don't want to have sex, I just don't "need" it. Yeah, people telling that is how people are ignorant about asexuality... Nobody can "tell" I am asexual, it is not written in caps on my forehead... -_-' Also, I love skinship a lot so yeah... People wouldn't even think for one second I am asexual usually. ^^'

 

[Horizon]

I feel sad you calling that "shit" even though you don't feel/think the same...

Yeah, just didn't feel like calling it real genuine 'stuff'. Lol.

And I can always work it out with anyone, I don't need someone who is asexual and I do not fear or don't want to have sex, I just don't "need" it.

I sure hope so.

Yeah, people telling that is how people are ignorant about asexuality... Nobody can "tell" I am asexual, it is not written in caps on my forehead... -_-' Also, I love skinship a lot so yeah... People wouldn't even think for one second I am asexual usually. ^^'

I won't delve farther into this asexuality topic.

 

[Stacker01]

hmm..I think we've misinterpreted the term "asexual". Those who want sex have a sexuality, which happens to be the opposite of "asexual" which is actually a reference to "no sexuality" or "not sexual" ("a" at the beginning meaning "anti", "no", or not.

Being sexual in-and-of-itself does not mean a person "needs" sex. Those who do are typified as "sexual fiends", "sexual deviants", and/or "sexual addicts". Those who are willing to have sex but don't "need" it are clinically "normal" or "regular" in a sexual meaning. Thus why there is "sexual" (a person who participates in, wants, or needs sexual activities) and "asexual" (a person who does not want, need, or participate i sexual activities). Having a "physical" attraction is "sexual", because it is an attraction to physical being.

As for "skinship", I take it that's slang for "spooning", which is actually a slang term for cuddling naked?

 

[Horizon]

As for "skinship", I take it that's slang for "spooning", which is actually a slang term for cuddling naked?

Wondered what that word meant.

 

[Sora]

wow wow wow God no! "Skinship" is actually the way we call in Korean the intimacy, or closeness, between persons when they bond through physical contact, such as holding hands, hugging, etc. But first skinship is between a mother and a child or parents washing their child at a bath. In Korea we use to hold hands with our closest friends too, which you wouldn't see in western countries. For example, two bestfriends boys in Korean can hold hands and not be homosexual at all! "Skinship" is simply bonding through physical contact, it's nothing sexual at all.

As for asexuality you are right, asexuality is distinct from abstention from sexual activity and from celibacy. As it says it is "characterized by little to no sexual attraction to others or interest in sexual activity". That is quite simple for me to understand since I live it maybe but people since not to get it at all and find it very weird. I recently learnt that asexuality was part of LGBT and even as a triangle purple flag (lol purple is my favorite color with blue XD): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality But to be honest I almost know nothing about LGBT and this kind of movements... ^^'

 

[Stacker01]

Well, the description of skinship is not a new idea to me but the term certainly was and confused me. Now I know, and it certainly explains a few things.

 

[Sora]

So I'll go ahead with the ideal type then.

It is true I am a bit too romantic sometimes, thinking about it. That's that very girly side of mine I guess. Or maybe I should just stop watching dramas and romantic movies! I guess my ideal type hm... First I don't really care about origins, really (even though I tend to be attracted to white skins, I don’t know why, I don't need him to be Korean at all). But he must:

♥ Be older than me (or the same age), taller than me (more than 178 cm would be fine, but my Dad being 186 cm I think it would be the best for them to be as tall or taller), have a pretty smile (with dimples?), pretty eyes (with a charismatic stare), a nice nose and wide shoulders. Not hairy, at least on the body (I wouldn't mind a little bit of beard, it can be really sexy, manly and cute).

♥ A 'real man' (I don't want to feel I am the man in the couple, especially because I can be quite boyish I would love it if he made me feel like a girl -_-).

♥ Be healthy, clean, smells good and has a style that looks natural no matter the location and time.

♥ Easy-going, friendly and comfortable. Not a guy who tries to act cool when he is really not. I'm tired of those guys showing off, and I am also sick of that running joke many guys do, saying they are God and all...

♥ A guy who likes to communicate, that would text/call me first and works to keep in touch.

♥ Has a youthful in attitude and personality and who likes childish things (because I do :P).

♥ Looks good when laughing, has a sense of humor and likes giving skinship (I talk here about innocent things like holding hands stroking the cheek, etc. not putting your dirty hands on my behind or chest to the risk to see mine right in your face).

♥ Someone who is forward (not necessarily optimistic but someone who is pro-active and is a go-better), direct, has sense and listens.

♥ Positive, hardworking (passionate?), polite (has courtesy too), mature, generous, really kind and friendly to elders and children, have good manners and a good common sense.

♥ A guy who would get jealous sometimes, just so I can have the proof he really cares for me, but not overly protective.

♥ Is a faithful and attention person. Appearance and personality are important, but I wish my boyfriend would have a sense of responsibility. Someone who I can trust is already not so easy to find…

♥ And of course, it would be a real plus if he lives on his own, can cook, has his driving license, is athletic (likes doing sports / work out), and can act “badass” sometimes (lol).

Finally, most of all, someone who truly loves me for who I am and that I would be in love with (that would make my heart races). My standards are way too high, right? Also I wonder why such a guy would like to be with me?... But of course that’s “ideal”, so if you know someone that fits this standard and is single, don’t wait to introduce me to him! ㅋㅋ

Ok, let's go back to real world. I have to listen to Taylor Swift break up songs once more so I can realize that probably if such a guy exists in this world he would not date me (since he would already have a girlfriend and be in love with her T_T) and that all the guys I would date will not be so great...

Truth is that girls don't get picky when they truly fall in love.
And it can be quite a problem sometimes too.
But especially when we have nothing else...
we can live up on our dreams...​

 

[Matt]

Yeah, your going to be single a long time if you start listing reasons why certain men wouldn't be perfect for you.

 

[Sora]

I might appear to have high standards but I never listed it to people except here. I can afford it too, I have a lot of men who like me so I can hope someday I'd be able to find the right one among them. And this is "ideal type". As I said in the end, when you love someone it is not your ideal type... But in the best case it is the closest to it? ^^

 

[mtntopview]

I gave up on getting a GF and said, 'to hell with it, got no life? Do what Jango Fett did, clone yourself!'. Much easier than having a relationship with a human female!

 

[Sora]

What is the point of having another person like yourself? I see no point.
I want someone who can complete me and make up for my flaws and what I'm lacking in. Someone with who I can be even stronger with. For Love is strong and the most beautiful thing in this world... ^^

 

[Lavi]

I think it's more along the lines of "sharing interests" than a more generic "like myself." It would be awkward to chat about things, otherwise.

EDIT: Nevermind. Took that out of context.

 

[mtntopview]

Actually, I just would like my 100% pure and perfect genes to be passed down without taint or corruption...

 

[Charli]

Actually, I just would like my 100% pure and perfect genes to be passed down without taint or corruption...

Sieg Heil and all that. >___>