Weddings

[Phil]

Honestly, I believe that marriage is just a sham. Two years later and you're wallowing in debt with two little brats running around covered in peanut butter whilst you furiously watch Dr.Phil.

If people want to spend the rest of their lives together, yes, they have the right to make it 'official', but fifty percent of marriages end with divorce. I'm not saying this is true for everyone who gets married, but people seem to have this idea in their head that when they start dating they'll end up marrying this person.

But will anyone stop you to ask about the quality of your relationship? Rarely.

A minister, Justice of the Peace, or whoever is marrying you or whoever gives you a marriage licence, cannot ask you about the quality of your relationship. I could walk up to a homeless man right now and apply for a marriage licence and we would be allowed to get married. If the government cared about the quality of relationships, they wouldn't hand out three quarters of the marriage licences they do. However, the Catholic Church is allowed to judge the quality of one's relationship when you are getting married, and they must deem you fit to marry. You must be a baptized Christian, not be too closely related, free to marry, etc. I think it's a good thing that the (Catholic) Church actually gives a shit about who they're marrying. (I'm sure under other religious constitutions they have similar rules but I'm using this as an example for now.)

To me, it's absolutely baffling that people care about gay marriage, in the sense that a married homosexual couple is disrupting the definition of marriage or for whatever retarded fears they may have about that. An eighteen year old could marry a forty year old and no one would give a shit, but suddenly a shitstorm of political tenterhooks errupts when 'Oh no, the lesbian couple down the street want to get married!'.

Little girls dream of frilly dresses, a large reception, a huge cake, the perfect groom, your best friends as brides maids, and that has led to a warped perspective on marriage. It's not about the goddamn cake, or the way your ****ing napkins look on the tables or who says what during a toast. It's about how you're going to spend the rest of your life with that person. Marriage is a hassle to me: I'd rather be in a happy relationship than to be happily married. A ring on my finger and a piece of paper telling me I'm married isn't going to make me think more of who I'm with nor is it going to change the way I perceive our relationship.

My mum and dad got married in Hawaii, just the two of them on a small beach. That's all they wanted. Unfortunately no one stopped my mom to say 'who you're marrying has extreme rage issues and drinks too much.' She's told me she thought she could 'fix' my dad by pursuing a relationship with him and marrying him, but ten years later they get divorced and leave seven year old me completely devastated.

I wish it wasn't so easy to marry people now.

Agreed on... a lot of that. Times are changing and the sooner we just accept that homosexuals and lesbians want to marry, the better.

Also kinda funny... my cousin(One who is basically an Uncle to me in a way) got married to a 18-19 Filipino when he's nearly 50, and they did it in private, just them and the priest. No one in my family complained because they were both happy and it's not our say in the matter. They are expecting a child within the next month. Now, if people could just be like that around the gay marriages, it'd be great. I can't even bring it up around anyone in my household with them going all christian about it.

Anyways, don't want to turn this into a gay marriage thread. I totaly agree with you on the ridiculous weddings, with all the worthless garbage just to make things pretty and such. That is why I love the way Mandalorians marry.

Mando 1: Do you?

Mando 2: Yes, do you?

Mando 1: Yes.

Mandos kiss, and are officialy married. No ceremony, no party, no nothing. Just between the two of them, how it should be. If I ever get married, god forbid that from happening, we're getting married mandalorian style.

 

[Rom]

Mandos kiss, and are officialy married. No ceremony, no party, no nothing. Just between the two of them, how it should be. If I ever get married, god forbid that from happening, we're getting married mandalorian style.

Do you hunt your rival and present his heart to the fair maiden before or after you get beheaded by a Jedi like a bitch. I can never remember.

<.< >.>

 

[Sreeya]

Meh, I feel like perceptions on marriage can also be a result of your surroundings. For example, my grandparents were married since they were in the 20s till 85 when my grandmother passed away, my biological parents have now been married for over 22 years. As a result, I definitely believe in marriage and understand it can work. The biggest impact marriage has is on the children, and I think that's where the problem rises. Let the idiots marry whoever/whenever, but that doesn't get in the way of anything/bothers no one. The focus/decisions should come when having children because that's who'll get affected by it.

Therefore, I don't think marriage itself is the problem. Plenty of very compatible people can get married, but when children arrive, it's simply too much to handle because it's a collaborative effort towards someone else, so you can't focus on each other. The romance department heavily suffers. On top of that, many people aren't even ready to have kids. And that's something you can't judge/work on until you actually go through it. That's a problem couples that don't marry can face as well, so marriage itself isn't the issue. It's the damage it does to others that is.

 

[HunterOrdo]

I think the same. Its not uncommon for people to "try to fix" other people like that, or get engaged in a relationship like that, sadly

Eh Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will never change.

In the end they are both disappointed.

 

[Phil]

Man, this wedding dragged on and ON AND ON. Aside from helping set up signs, tables, ice chests, etc, I had little part in the wedding. Reception dragged on as my feet cooked in the sun, the food was bare minimum and as soon as I was done with the photos I jumped out of my suit and back into some slacks cause it was hot that day. Made a ten second speech, did not catch the whatever the groom threw to the single men, not that I tried, and I paid 5 dollars for the couple as I danced against my will for five seconds flat. It's not that I don't know how to dance, I just don't dance.

All in all, I'm tired, my feet are aching and I spent ten minutes digging through the trash to seperate bottlecaps from water bottles in the trash for plastic stuff.

Bring on the Mando weddings.

 

[Djak Mikos]

As far as I'm concerned, a marriage is a private contract between myself and my wife, with God as the only necessary witness. The state can go stuff it's license where the sun don't shine. I don't need a judge, captain, or minister to tell me I'm married.

 

[Ehrlich Mar]

I personally find marriage to be a very beautiful thing. I think that it has a lot more meaning if you are of a religious nature; "the two will become one flesh" means that there isn't any splitting up and there isn't any quarrel that can rend you assunder. If the pair truly believes that with Christ as their witness, then I think the marriage is powerful and effective.

To me, my parents are a wonderful example of what a marriage should be. I actually think a lot of people percieve marriage based upon how they saw their parents' marriage turn out; it's the closest view into that sort of union that you'll ever have outside of getting hitched yourself. But yeah, they don't always get along, and they most certainly have their faults (like anyone else) but I can't think of a more rewarding relationship of which I know. I don't think that they would be like that had they refused to tie the knot; there's a lack of accountability outside of a marriage covenant.

 

[Ash]

I only want a wedding for the crazy wedding night sex.

Matt,
I love you.


My boyfriend and I loosely talked about marriage one time.
Have a pretty and small wedding. Honeymoon in Ireland, go home to collect moi shit, move to Ireland, live happily ever after. The end.
Why people spend loads on weddings is insane. I'd rather use the money to cure cancer or feed my family. . .

 

[Geeva]

I cant get married to my signifigant other in my state, it is against the law. *sadface*

 

[Ash]

I'm sorry, Geeva.): That's no bueno. Get married anyway!

 

[Samara]

Eh Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will never change.

In the end they are both disappointed.

Rofl, so true

I cant get married to my signifigant other in my state, it is against the law. *sadface*

All the more thrilling! But yeah, looking at the thread again please reconsider :bitchez

 

[Geeva]

It's no big deal, lol, I agree with Djak on this topic.